I just need to vent. All weekend the kids and I have been at the family reunion. It was a great time and fun was had by all. But one thing that I did notice and I seem to notice it more when there are family gatherings happening more than when I am just visiting by myself and the kids.
Why is it that parents feel the need to criticize their adult children's parenting skills? I mean, if you have a problem with the way your kids are parenting their kids, why not either take them aside and tell them or keep your bloody mouth shout. My father has a nasty habit of passive-aggressively pointing out all our parenting skills. Like my one sister is called the 'helicopter' because she hovers over her child. I can't remember right now what my other sister gets called, and I have no clue what I get called, however there is no doubt in my mind that there is a name for me too. He does it behind our backs and to our faces, all in the name of humour. Well it's not funny, it's rude and it's hurtful. You don't see us going around and insulting him on his parenting skills. Oh no, that would be wrong. If he criticizes me one more time about how rough I am on my kids by instilling too many rules about manners, or how my son doesn't really like things, he just says he does to please me; I think I may explode.
Now don't get me wrong here, I think he is overall a nice guy. But instead of pointing out all of our flaws maybe he could take a good hard look at why exactly it is we all parent the way we do. My guess it's either genetics or a learned behaviour.
Anyway, I am done now....carry on!
:)
Broken Annie
A Whole New World
13 years ago
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Personally I find the whole family reunion thing very stressful. I'm not sure why that is but by the end of it I'm definately ready to take off. Dad can definately be a wack job and after a few days I tend to chalk it up to his 'generation'. One thing I know is that he will never change and that I live far far away :) I try not to get to irratated (and mostly fail at that). I really have no idea why he feels compelled to say the things he does. He is so classic Passive Agressive.
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