Happy Thanksgiving or HTG as my daughter would say!

So it's Thanksgiving Monday, and I lived to tell!

I decided to go to the house for dinner, and Sarah came too...she wanted to see her friends so off we went. It was awkward but nice nonetheless. I got to chat with and get caught up with Wendy and Charles; it was great to see them again.
I pretty much stuck to Wendy like glue. Carol briefly said 'Hi' as I came in and then stuck to herself most of the night as well. She sat beside me at the table and we didn't speak at all. It was weird. She left without saying good bye to anybody.
We were gone by 8:00 or so.

So I just got a strange call. It was obviously an accident...

A couple of months ago, a friend of mine was supposed to move in with me. She was having financial difficulties and I thought I was helping her out by telling her she had a roof over her head for a few months if that is what she needed.
The day came when she was to move in and she didn't show. She called me several times that day and kept giving me various excuses as to why she wasn't there. Eventually by 10 that night it was obvious that she wasn't moving in.
I had cleared out a space for her in the house and had the kids rearrange some of their things to accommodate this move.
The next day she spoke with me and it was understood that she was to move in a few days later so I told her no problem and asked that she let me know if she changed her mind so that I could put everything back in order so the kids and I could get back to normal.
Well it's been a few months now and she still hasn't called.

I have no idea what I did as a friend other than be there for her and help her out when she was pretty low. I just figured it wasn't really about me and that she was simply one screwed up woman. I figured she changed her mind but was too embarrassed to tell me and just figured avoidance was easier....too bad, because I was/ am genuinely concerned about her and was worried that something horrible had happened; she leads a pretty seedy lifestyle so you never know what could have come of her.

So back to the phone call tonight... I got a call that was a wrong number, but I recognized the voice immediately....it was her, so I told her that she had the wrong number and said "Hi...it's me Annie...Ooopsy... you called the wrong number" her response was a very quick "oops is right!" and she said she would call me tomorrow and hung up.....

I doubt she will, but I really wish she would so I could be sure she was OK...

I guess that's the rescuer in me...the co-dependent....so I know I should simply just chalk it up to an Oops and forget about the call, she is a toxic friend and I need to cut ties with toxic friends / relationships.
It's a tough one for me, but I will be strong and not seek her out. I won't be disappointed if she doesn't call; I just have to remember IT'S NOT ABOUT ME... IT'S ALL ABOUT HER!

I've been used....and I guess that's that....chalk it up to experience....good thing about this is I don't feel like I did something, usually I think of it as something I did...but not this time...ahhh...I am growing...and it is nice to see that I recognize the signs this time!

Later,
Annie